Beauty in my Hair
Hello Ladies it's Jaysie Sheppard here. I was thinking this week about my hair and how I enjoy doing different looks. As I was taking down my braids I started to remember my natural color and how that sandy blond highlights are no longer in my hair. From wearing braids and wigs the sun no longer hits it so my color has left. I sometimes like to keep it out and see the beauty in freeing it back to the sun. I felt the breeze hit my scalp. It was still damp from me washing it and I can feel the air drying every curl. I was completely comfortable of letting my hair out, and letting me be me. I thought to myself I felt this all my life, my hair has memories. My memories as a child comes with my hair. I also have bad memories. I remember negative words of others talking about my hair and my hair image, as if it belonged to them. I can remember feeling bad for my hair because it wasn't it’s fault it grows this way. My hair hair just wanted to be itself and why does anyone have the right to judge that.
Men have said things about my hair that made me began to judge my hair too. I stop having a relationship with my hair. We used to be best friends and we would try all kinds of styles. We were free together, we did everything together, and we didn't care together. Then I broke up with my hair and became friends with the judgements of others. I started to listen to what men said or people said. I started to hate my hair, I started to want to be anything that this man wanted my hair to be. I now have a broken relationship with my hair image. My hair was no longer free. My hair became someone else's image and not God's anymore.
I know many people that struggle with understanding God's completeness of who we are in God's image. Your hair and the way you want to wear it is between you and God. I have a friend who recently felt this judgement of her hair from her husband and she almost felt she had to break up with her hair. Her husband's judgement made her question her relationship with her hair and then question her relationship with her husband. Does he own my hair’s image? Does my husband have the right of being the head of my home to make judgement on how God made my hair, and what I do to it? As she laid out her beautiful hair on what he called “ the dirty cement”, next to the jacuzzi to cool down from the bubbling hot water, judgement came to break her up with her hair. She was saddened because she didn't want to break up with her image in God. She didn't want to be someone else's image. Even though she loved this person, does that mean she can't be more in love with God's image of herself?
Let me answer this quickly !!! Absolutely, Positively, Not!! Every piece of our bodies every cell in our skin and every hair on our head belongs to God and is made in his image and THAT ALONE ……..( scream it ladies) ….IS ENOUGH!!!
“And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.” Luke 12:7 NLT God says how valuable you are to him even by your hair. Can you tell me of a time when someone tried to get you to break up with your hair? Can you tell me a time when judgement broke your heart and made you question your relationship with your Godly hair image?
10/15/2018 10:37:28 am
Thank you for writing this, so many women need to hear this message!! Our relationship with our hair is our own and should remain that way.
10/16/2018 08:33:31 am
This is an incredible blog of the image of Women. It’s really well written & so inspiring that I can’t even put it down in words how I personally felt as I was reading it. Both men & women reading this can gain something from it. Men may not even know that they are judging the women in their lives & this blog could help them to see what we feel when we’re judged by them. Don’t ever stop writing Jaysie. THIS IS YOU GIFT!!
Jaysie Nyshia Sheppard
10/16/2018 06:13:29 pm
Thank you so much I'm so glad it touched you. Your welcome to tell your story as well. Everyone has one but we are freeing other women when we speak out. Blessings
Jaysie Nyshia Sheppard
10/16/2018 06:17:30 pm
Your awesome, I'm so glad you enjoyed it Waneisha !! Please write about your experiences as well.
10/17/2018 11:54:25 am
I really enjoyed reading this post! I think it is so important for woman to embrace the natural beauty God has given us. He made each and everyone of us in his own perfect image, and I wish our society wouldn’t put shame to that. I’m all for self-love and positivity!
10/21/2018 07:20:23 am
This was a great read Jaysie! I thinks so important for women to love their natural hair first then do with it what ever makes THEM feel good and confident. People will always have something to say about our hair. I focus on what I like and loving myself first. This is what I am teaching my daughter as well but as you know it is difficult. She is a curly hair girl and not many of her friends at school hair looks like hers. Thank you for writing this I think I will read it to her. ❤️
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